THE five minute EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (EI) NEWSLETTER - by Johanna Vanderpol

Live the life you've always wanted through emotional intelligence -
Because of the masses of information we are subject to each day, I have purposely kept this newsletter brief. As a regular subscriber, this is a good way to increase your emotional intelligence little by little, day by day. Each issue will have an action step or exercise designed to increase your EI. This is my gift to you. Enjoy.

1. Announcements
2. A True Story of Emotional Resilience
3. Did you know?
4. Quote
5. Action step for you

1. Announcements:
The Newest Emotional Intelligence Product... An Introductory Offer. 21 Lessons for only $10.
IN TWENTY-ONE DAYS, YOU CAN INCREASE YOUR EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE. Yes, you read that right. This is a 21-lesson program delivered by e-mail that will allow you to take one small step each day to increase your ability to cope with life's challenges more easily, experience more positive emotion and reduce negative emotion. When you subscribe, you will receive a lesson each day by e-mail for 21 days complete with an action step for the day. It is doable. And, it makes a difference. I have written this program especially for busy people that don't have a lot of time to attend weekly workshops and courses. This is perfect. You can do it on your own time. And, in twenty-one days, you will have new tools that are already becoming a habit. Lots of great change. With the least amount of effort. And the best part... You can afford it. The entire program is available for the first two hundred subscribers for only $10! Do you want to increase your emotional intelligence easily? Then go to my website today at , click on programs and order now. You will be able to use your credit card through paypal with high security levels. Go ahead. It's very safe.
A Weekend Retreat on Honouring your Emotions...
Where: Thirteen Moons Retreat, located in Peterborough County just two hours northeast of Toronto, Ontario, is a beautiful safe and comfortable wellness retreat. We offer an oasis for women who need a getaway. Experience mouth-watering vegetarian meals, rejuvenating bodywork and 186 acres of lush surroundings. Let us nourish and pamper you-body and soul!
When: May 27-29, 2005
Cost: $345 plus GST
Description: Do emotions get the better of you? Do you sometimes overreact and are puzzled by it? Did you know that emotions that are suppressed or not processed cause physical illness and chronic pain? Do you feel like emotions can become a roller coaster, but don't know what to do about it? Join Johanna Vanderpol for an introduction to a proven five-step process of working through your emotions. Discover the positive power and the true meaning of your emotions. Leave with a practical way of applying the authentic nature of emotions to augment the quality of your life.
How to register: go to look at the facilities, get directions and read more. email phone 705-652-9329.
Special Coaching Deal:  Anyone who receives this newsletter can now purchase coaching at a special price - Three 45-minute sessions for $250.00! That's a savings of $50.00! This price remains in effect for life for anyone who signs up from reading this. What do you long for? I can help. Call me for a 20 minute complimentary session. Contact me at See my website at for more information on coaching.
2.  A True Story of Emotional Resilience
Many of you may be wondering what happened to the last few monthly issues of this newsletter. Well, the last three months of my life have been the most challenging I have experienced in many years. It left me vulnerable to being totally depleted, depressed and hopeless. Had it happened to me five years ago, I would have been severely depressed and
clinically ill. This time, even though I felt like I was drowning, I kept finding the ways to stay above water.
In December, my 96 year old father broke his hip and my eldest sister's husband was dying from cancer. In January, my sister's husband died and my dad was in a rehabilitation hospital that was not good for him. He was going downhill fast. In January, I also sold my house and I had to find alternate accommodations to the end of June. In July, my son and I will be moving across country from Ontario, Canada to British Columbia, Canada. We have been preparing for the move. My eldest sister suggested that my son and I move into my Dad's empty house since he was living in a retirement home. My dad's house is still being renovated as a result of a major flood in July, 2004. I am now living in the house I grew up in until I move across the country on July 5. And to top it all off, I have had some challenging family dynamics.
In short, I was consumed by the challenges. It was difficult to give myself permission or time to honour myself. That would mean not doing my writing, going to the gym or visiting with friends. I was being challenged by my family dynamics to live my life the way I was taught, to be a martyr and to not take care of myself. It was difficult not to get sucked into this mode of thinking because that is how I was raised. Very core testing taking place here.
I could feel myself sinking. I felt consumed by defensive thoughts; experienced physical problems such as dizziness, high blood pressure, headaches; experienced psychological problems such as chronic anxiety leaving me unable to sleep or eat. It was like drowning and looking for something to hang onto so as not to be washed away by rushing waters.
So, what did I do that created emotional resilience?
I hung on. I hung on by making a larger effort to pick up the phone and set up a visit with a friend. I went to the gym even though I felt like I was being told I was selfish. My emotions would shift immediately. I said prayers. It helped. I hung in, perservering, knowing that this was not permanent. I talked with other people about what was happening to me and they gave me further insight and confirmation that what I was experiencing would be difficult for anyone. I went for a walk when a walk seemed frivolous. Much of the time, these nurturing activities felt hollow or the results wouldn't last long because the challenges were so constant, but I knew they were important, so I did them anyways. The sink or swim kind of important. I went to my favourite cafe to write for a 1/2 hour, even though my old family messages were surfacing inside my head saying that what I need to do to nurture myself was not important, that I was not important. I became available to my family to support them in times of need. The dust has settled somewhat now, but I think I will need to remain somewhat vigilant and protect and nurture myself until I move. It also shows me how important it is to surround myself with loving and supportive people, including me - another form of taking good care of myself.
So, you see, it is messy and not easy. But I am back on track and starting to do my work again. I feel better and it is because I took care of myself in various ways. In due time, all things change, even tough times.
You are important. You can take care of yourself. And then you will be able to make your unique contribution that the world needs. Try to remember this the next time you are in challenging waters that might last for awhile. It is just an endurance test and then it will be over. But find the ways to take care of yourself. Honour yourself. It is the key to emotional resilience.
3.  Did you know? Look at what's happening in the EI World these days...
Emotional Intelligence World Summit -- NexusEQ 2005
"Leading with Emotional Intelligence: Tools and Wisdom for a Sustainable World"
Egmond an Zee, Holland, June, 12-14, 2005
Join the conference to:
Enhance learning in your organization.
Learn the latest EQ best practices and research.
Increase your emotional intelligence.
Strengthen your EQ network.
Change agents in education, business, and health from around the world come together to increase the quality and effectiveness of leadership using emotional intelligence in education, business, and health.
Featuring exceptional emotional intelligence experts from 19 countries, including:
Daniel Goleman (US),
Peter Salovey (US),
Bob Spalding (UK),
Veronica de Andres (Argentina),
Annie McKee (US)
(more speakers)
The premier EQ conference, NexusEQ delivers exceptional speakers in an engaging forum for dialogue, collaboration, and learning. No other conference has this breadth and depth of emotional intelligence expertise.
NexusEQ delegates walk away with new perspectives, the latest research on EQ, and boost their our own emotional intelligence. This is an unusual conference -- it's not just theory and talking heads, nor is it just a "feel good" -- you'll get a great blend of experience and theory, inspiration and practical advice.
NexusEQ is produced by the Six Seconds EQ Network and the EQ Europe Education Network in collaboration with APS (The National Centre for School Improvement in the Netherlands), and many of the leading emotional intelligence organizations -- read about the sponsors and about becoming one!
4.  Quote - Optimism from the spiritual writings
True loss is for him whose days have been spent in utter ignorance of his true self. (Compilations, Baha'i World Faith, p. 141) - see
5.  Action step for you
Try this: Make a list of your strengths. Look for them every day and add one or two or three or more to your list everyday. The world teaches us to look at our weaknesses. This makes us feel weak and causes us to be less effective in our daily affairs. Start looking for your strengths. Ask other people what they see as your strengths. Write them down. Add them up. Review them from time to time. Looking at our strengths causes us to feel strong and we will experience more positive emotions and contribute more positively to our relationships. It is a spiral upward. Take the climb. It's a good one. Go for it!
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Until next time
Regards to all of you
Johanna Vanderpol
Emotional Intelligence Coaching, Seminars and Retreats
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