THE five minute EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (EI) NEWSLETTER - by Johanna Vanderpol

Live the life you've always wanted through emotional intelligence -
Because of the masses of information we are subject to each day, I have purposely kept this newsletter brief. As a regular subscriber, this is a good way to increase your emotional intelligence little by little, day by day. Each issue will have an action step or exercise designed to increase your EI. This is my gift to you. Enjoy.

1. This Newsletter's Theme - The Power of Curiosity
2. Did you know? - The Broaden and Build Model
3. Quote - From the spiritual writings on Joy
4. Action step for you - Broadening your horizons
5. Services & Products for you - Support for your life

1.  The Power of Curiosity and Boredom
Curiosity is a strength. It broadens our world whether it be the world of ideas, friends, community or culture. It probably expands our neural pathways as well. It provides stimulation that can be satisfying and makes you feel more alive. It is the opposite of boredom. It can reduce lonliness and restlessness. At its very best it can reduce the risk of falling into a state of depression.
Curiosity is not necessarily an emotion but can affect our emotional state. The message in unpleasant emotions of boredom, restlessness, lonliness and depression may be that you need new experiences of people, place, activity or ideas. Your soul may be calling you to make some sort of expansion in your life, open up to new possibilities. Who knows where it will lead.
I have seen many exciting and life-enhancing states become more common place when I open up to curiosity and see others open up to curiosity. For example, last week I was feeling kinda blah and kinda bored so I asked myself what would help me feel better. The "answer" I got was that I needed something new in my life. So I remembered a cafe in the nearby city of Victoria, BC I had just read about in a magazine, got out my map to see where it was, grabbed my computer and pencil and paper and drove to the cafe. I spent two hours there, enjoyed the environment of somewhat eclectic, bohemian-looking people, a bulletin board of all kinds of interesting events in the community and local newspapers with interesting news. I got work done that I am not normally motivated to do. One of the things I did was put my book entitled Honouring Your Emotions: Why it Matters online complete with book cover at The cafe knew how to make good coffee. It was an interesting neighbourhood with a new art gallery opening up. The need for novelty in an uplifting environment was satisfied. I felt nourished by taking the time to listen to my emotions and do something about it.
If I had pre-judged that it wouldn't be interesting, or it was too far to drive, or that I would feel shy or self-conscious, or worse still denied acting on the message in the emotion. I would have deprived myself of an uplifting experience and probably would have sunk lower in my original mood. Being curious and listening to our need for novelty is one way to increase our positive emotions and hence our health and well-being.
Barbara Fredrickson, a professor at the University of Michigan, has conducted research in the field of positive emotions and has created the Broaden and Build Theory. She shows that when we experience positive emotions, we build the resources we need in our life to withstand hard times and live a more optimal life. I think it is in our best interest to try new experiences whether it is reaching out to a new friend, a new book, a different magazine, a new group, a new conference or another neighbouring town, so that we create opportunities to invite life-enhancing people or activities to become part of our lives. Sometimes it is just one activity like going to a new cafe once, with nothing else developing from it. And sometimes the activity won't pan out as something we enjoyed. But if we seek novelty as a regular part of our life, we will be rewarded the majority of the time with pleasureable ways to spend our time and new opportunities to pursue and hence more positive emotions. And then we can see the wisdom in acting on the messages inherent in emotion states like boredom or curiosity.
And what better time to try this framework on when many of us are in the doldrums of winter or rainy seasons. You notice that it doesn't have to be big. It's not like we have to go to Jamaica or travel around the world to satisfy our need for novelty. Many activities don't require money. You can even go for a walk from your house down a street, through a park or on a trail that you have never been on before. You can borrow a book from the library that interests you but that you haven't read yet.
So, what if we made novelty a regular part of our life. We would constantly be expanding ourselves and our lives in new ways.
What will you do this week to expand your life?
To learn more about the messages in your emotions, take a look at "Honouring Your Emotions: Why it Matters" now in it second printing.
Honouring Your Emotions is simply written and full of profound wisdom and practical advice on how our emotions, when appropriately managed rather than suppressed, can guide us toward a more joyous, richer life. i heart-ily recommend Johanna's beautiful little book to everyone. -- Dr. Candace B. Pert, PhD, Author of Molecules of Emotion Honouring Your Emotions is simply written and full of profound wisdom and practical advice on how our emotions, when appropriately managed rather than suppressed, can guide us toward a more joyous, richer life. I heart-ily recommend Johanna Vanderpol's beautiful little book to everyone.

- Dr. Candace B. Pert, PhD., Author of Molecules of Emotion
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2.  Did you know?
More about the Broaden and Build Model: took Barbara Fredrickson, an associate professor at the University of Michigan, to convince my head (Dr. Seligman speaking) that positive emotion has a profound purpose far beyond the delightful way it makes us feel.
Fredrickson claims that positive emotions have a grand purpose in evolution. They broaden our abiding intellectual, physical, and social resources, buidling up reserves we can draw upon when a threat or opportunity presents itself. When we are in a positive mood, people like us better, and friendship, love, and coalitions are more likely to cement. In contrast to the constrictions of negative emotion, our mental set is expansive, tolerant, and creative. We are open to new ideas and new experience.
- from p. 35 of Authentic Happiness by Dr. Martin Seligman
to learn more about Barbara Fredrickson's research go to 
3.  Quote - Thoughts on joy
In this world we are influenced by two sentiments, Joy and Pain.
Joy gives us wings! In times of joy our strength is more vital, our intellect keener, and our understanding less clouded. We seem better able to cope with the world and to find our sphere of usefulness. But when sadness visits us we become weak, our strength leaves us, our comprehension is dim and our intelligence veiled. The actualities of life seem to elude our grasp, the eyes of our spirits fail to discover the sacred mysteries, and we become even as dead beings.
There is no human being untouched by these two influences; but all the sorrow and the grief that exist come from the world of matter -- the spiritual world bestows only the joy!
Abdu'l-Baha, Paris Talks, p. 109
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4.  Action step for you
What one new broadening activity will you try on in the next seven days? Report the results to someone. Make a game of it. See what happens.
That's it. Questions, stories? email me
5. Services & Products for you
Go to for free resources in the form of articles and tools.
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