THE five minute EMOTIONAL
INTELLIGENCE (EI) NEWSLETTER - by Johanna VanderpolBecause of the masses of
information we are subject to each day, I have purposely kept this newsletter
brief. As a regular subscriber, this is a good way to increase your
emotional intelligence little by little, day by day. Each issue will have an
action step or exercise designed to increase your EI. This is my gift to you.
Enjoy.
ISSUE FIVE, APRIL,
2005
1.
Announcements
2. A True Story of
Emotional Resilience
3. Did you know?
4.
Quote
5. Action step for
you
1.
Announcements:
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with an action step for the day. It is doable. And, it makes a difference. I
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2. A True Story
of Emotional Resilience
Many of you may be wondering what
happened to the last few monthly issues of this newsletter. Well, the last three
months of my life have been the most challenging I have experienced in many
years. It left me vulnerable to being totally depleted, depressed and hopeless.
Had it happened to me five years ago, I would have been severely depressed
and
clinically ill. This time, even
though I felt like I was drowning, I kept finding the ways to stay above
water.
In December, my 96 year old father
broke his hip and my eldest sister's husband was dying from cancer. In January,
my sister's husband died and my dad was in a rehabilitation hospital that was
not good for him. He was going downhill fast. In January, I also sold my house
and I had to find alternate accommodations to the end of June. In July, my son
and I will be moving across country from Ontario, Canada to British Columbia,
Canada. We have been preparing for the move. My eldest sister suggested that my
son and I move into my Dad's empty house since he was living in a retirement
home. My dad's house is still being renovated as a result of a major flood
in July, 2004. I am now living in the house I grew up in until I move across the
country on July 5. And to top it all off, I have had some challenging family
dynamics.
In short, I was consumed by the
challenges. It was difficult to give myself permission or time to honour myself.
That would mean not doing my writing, going to the gym or visiting with friends.
I was being challenged by my family dynamics to live my life the way I was
taught, to be a martyr and to not take care of myself. It was difficult not to
get sucked into this mode of thinking because that is how I was raised. Very
core testing taking place here.
I could feel myself sinking. I
felt consumed by defensive thoughts; experienced physical problems such as
dizziness, high blood pressure, headaches; experienced psychological problems
such as chronic anxiety leaving me unable to sleep or eat. It was like drowning
and looking for something to hang onto so as not to be washed away by rushing
waters.
So, what did I do that created
emotional resilience?
I hung on. I hung on by making a
larger effort to pick up the phone and set up a visit with a friend. I went to
the gym even though I felt like I was being told I was selfish. My emotions
would shift immediately. I said prayers. It helped. I hung in, perservering,
knowing that this was not permanent. I talked with other people about what was
happening to me and they gave me further insight and confirmation that what I
was experiencing would be difficult for anyone. I went for a walk when a walk
seemed frivolous. Much of the time, these nurturing activities felt hollow or
the results wouldn't last long because the challenges were so constant, but I
knew they were important, so I did them anyways. The sink or swim kind of
important. I went to my favourite cafe to write for a 1/2 hour, even though my
old family messages were surfacing inside my head saying that what I need to do
to nurture myself was not important, that I was not important. I became
available to my family to support them in times of need. The dust has settled
somewhat now, but I think I will need to remain somewhat vigilant and protect
and nurture myself until I move. It also shows me how important it is to
surround myself with loving and supportive people, including me - another
form of taking good care of myself.
So, you see, it is messy and not
easy. But I am back on track and starting to do my work again. I feel better and
it is because I took care of myself in various ways. In due time, all things
change, even tough times.
You are important. You can take
care of yourself. And then you will be able to make your unique contribution
that the world needs. Try to remember this the next time you are in challenging
waters that might last for awhile. It is just an endurance test and then it will
be over. But find the ways to take care of yourself. Honour yourself. It is the
key to emotional resilience.
3. Did you know? Look at what's happening in the EI
World these days...
Emotional Intelligence
World Summit -- NexusEQ 2005
"Leading with Emotional
Intelligence: Tools and Wisdom for a Sustainable World"
Egmond an Zee, Holland, June,
12-14, 2005
Join the conference
to:
Enhance learning in your
organization.
Learn the latest EQ best practices
and research.
Increase your emotional
intelligence.
Strengthen your EQ
network.
Change agents in education,
business, and health from around the world come together to increase the quality
and effectiveness of leadership using emotional intelligence in education,
business, and health.
Featuring exceptional emotional
intelligence experts from 19 countries, including:
Daniel Goleman (US),
Peter Salovey (US),
Bob Spalding (UK),
Veronica de Andres (Argentina),
Annie McKee (US)
(more speakers)
The premier EQ conference, NexusEQ
delivers exceptional speakers in an engaging forum for dialogue, collaboration,
and learning. No other conference has this breadth and depth of emotional
intelligence expertise.
NexusEQ delegates walk away with
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intelligence. This is an unusual conference -- it's not just theory and talking
heads, nor is it just a "feel good" -- you'll get a great blend of experience
and theory, inspiration and practical advice.
NexusEQ is produced by the Six
Seconds EQ Network and the EQ Europe Education Network in collaboration with APS
(The National Centre for School Improvement in the Netherlands), and many of the
leading emotional intelligence organizations -- read about the sponsors and
about becoming one!
4. Quote -
Optimism from the spiritual writings
True loss is for him whose days
have been spent in utter ignorance of his true self. (Compilations, Baha'i World Faith, p. 141)
- see www.bahai.org
5. Action step
for you
Try this: Make a list of your
strengths. Look for them every day and add one or two or three or more to your
list everyday. The world teaches us to look at our weaknesses. This makes us
feel weak and causes us to be less effective in our daily affairs. Start looking
for your strengths. Ask other people what they see as your strengths. Write them
down. Add them up. Review them from time to time. Looking at our strengths
causes us to feel strong and we will experience more positive emotions and
contribute more positively to our relationships. It is a spiral upward. Take the
climb. It's a good one. Go for it!
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Until next time
Regards to all of you
Johanna Vanderpol
Emotional Intelligence Coaching,
Seminars and Retreats
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